This page provides a short list of books that I commonly recommend to clients. For a more extensive list of resources, including community organizations, please visit the Resource Section of my Academy of SM Arts website, where you can also purchase my two films, “The Pain Game” and “Tie Me Up!”  They are now on one DVD called “The SM Arts Collection.”

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Coming into Your Kink 

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk about It and How do Do It Safely, by Sybil Holiday and William A. Henkin Consensual Sadomasochism
By William A. Henkin and Sybil Holiday
Combining extensive professional credentials with deep personal experience, Henkin and Holiday examine the psychological power of erotic dominance and submission and explain how SM can be a source of intense intimacy,  sophisticated erotic theater, and sexual pleasure.

Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon

Learning the Ropes
By Race Bannon
This basic guide includes fantasy visualization exercises and scene examples, providing players of all genders, orientations, and skill levels  with rich fodder for crafting new experiences.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. HardyThe New Bottoming Book
By Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Includes sections on dominance/submission play, bridging the gap from on-line to real-time relationships, the four stages of a scene, and more. Full of hot illustrations, realistic wisdom, moving and funny anecdotes and insights into how to become a popular bottom!

The New Topping Book
By Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping.  This updated version tackles issues that have arisen in the last ten years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of ‘lifestyle’ relationships, ensuring our own and our partners’ safety, and more.

When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Catherine LisztWhen Someone You Love is Kinky,
by Dossie Easton & Catherine Liszt
Written to help “non-kinky” folks understand and communicate with their kinky friends, partners, and relatives, this book includes guidelines for coming-out and brief, non-threatening descriptions of the commonest kinks (and ideas about why people enjoy them).

 For Further Exploration 

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon JacobsDifferent Loving
By William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
A complete, comprehensive user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual lifestyles. The authors handle each one in a sensitive, thorough, analytical, and fascinating way and manage to explain a secret world to those who might wish to visit.

Fantasy Made Flesh: The Essential Guide to Erotic Role Play by Deborah AddingtonFantasy Made Flesh: The Essential Guide to Erotic Roleplay
By Deborah Addington
The essential guidebook for the creative and erotic art of sexual role-play.  “Fantasy Made Flesh” teaches readers to use their imaginations and give themselves permission to become the creatures of their dreams.

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. HardyThe Ethical Slut
By Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt
This groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer.   The authors dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle.

Urban Tantra by Barbara CarrllasUrban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century
By Barbara Carellas
With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and pleasure-centered spiritual wisdom, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to push past their edge in search of the great cosmic orgasm.

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