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Coaching & Play

Private Consultations

on Zoom

For Individuals or couples.  


Reveal your Fantasies.

Own your Kinky Desires.

Learn to Negotiate Sane Safe & Consensual Erotic Power Exchanges.

Connect to Resources in your Community.

Initiations via Zoom

Ready to "Dive In?"

Step Into Your Dominant or submissive Persona.

Learn Play Skills that Suit Your Desires.

Become More Passionate with Each Other.

Guided Play

Zoom Mentoring

For Couples, All Levels, All Genders

Created Especially for You! Heat Up and Deepen your Play!

Embody your Erotic Truth through Role Play and Conscious Kink.

Gain Confidence: Hone Your Physical & Psychological Play Skills.

Let your Beast Out!  Test your Boundaries!

Experience Control & Surrender.

Discover How to Play with Mutually Consensual Aggressive Exchanges.

Together, we will make your fantasy into a hot and safe reality. 


In a safe outdoor space,

with your intent clear,

journey on the ecstatic path of power in surrender.

Your sacred rite, with your consent, could be:

 Flogging ritual

Sensory deprivation/overload exploration

All leading you to cathartic release and empowerment.

Shamanic Kink Ritual

On Intimacy Coaching


On My Journey & Work 

I am a BDSM coach, ritualist and personal trainer in the kinky arts. I know consensual erotic power exchanges to be a valid path to self-discovery, intimacy, and healing for those called to explore their kinky desires.


I am blessed that my life’s work is now more readily understood and accepted. When willing to bring their kinky desires out of the closet, people forge stronger connections to their partners and find whole new ways to explore and rekindle their sexuality. I am honored to guide couples on their journeys.


While BDSM is NOT therapy, it brings personal fulfilment, healing, and greater pleasure & intimacy to those who explore this complex and negotiated erotic venue. I've brought compassion and intuition to my work, creating safety and trust in every consultation, initiation, and guided play for more than 25 years.


My skills in caring erotic sadism, dominance & submission, and bondage in consensual power play reflect my respect for others’ erotic sensibilities, age, and gender.


Erotic Dominance Intensives

Our intensives are on hold due to COVID-19.

Zoom mentoring is available now.

I created the Academy of SM Arts in 1995 to dispel negative myths about fetish and BDSM and provide education and hands- on training to those drawn to fantasies of consensual erotic power.  I offer Dominance Intensive Weekends in San Francisco  at the SFCitadel several times a year with co-teacher Eve Minax and guest  instructors Selina Raven & JD of Two Knotty Boys.

The Dominatrix Training

3-day Pro Intensive 

Dates TBA due to COVID-19

Zoom mentoring available - contact Cleo

This powerful and intimate three day workshop is for women with personal interest and experience in BDSM who want to hone their techniques and find their very own ethical style as professional Dominas. This Intensive will deepen your understanding of fetishes and appreciation of kink, including your own! Each course is limited to 8 Dominas.

I you are interested in a mini-intensive on Zoom, please email me.

This weekend workshop focuses on dominating with confidence, skills, care, and style.  

This course is limited to 8 Dominant Men or Men who Switch.

The Erotic Dominance Intensive

for Women: Tops & Switches


This intimate weekend workshop is about integrating refined techniques and skills with heart, spirit and erotic power. Our goal is to help women experience Kink and BDSM as a path of discovery, empowerment and deeper human emotional and sexual connection.



while you're under quarantine, you can practice tying YOURSELF up...

Healing & Kink Go Hand in Hand

Negotiation Skills

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Accolades & Contributions

  • 2015 | Received the Key to Folsom Street Fair for her community service.  

  • 2014 | Inducted in The Society of Janus‘ Hall of Fame 

  • 2009 | Nominated for Woman of the Year, Leather Journal for the Pantheon of Leather XIX

  • 2008 | Cléo and Fakir named Living Leather Legends, Southwest Leather Conference

  • 2008 | Leather Marshall, San Francisco Pride Parade 

  • 2002 | “The Pain Game” Award from SSSS-WR Healthy Sexual Pleasure Film/Video Festival. Ms Dubois Producer and Director

Presenter and workshop facilitator in  San Francisco Bay Area and at National BDSM conferences including:  

  • Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco 

  • Kaiser Permanente Department of Psychiatry, San Francisco  

  • One Taste 2008-present



Cléo, gives new meaning to the words ‘Personal Trainer.’  I could never have imagined our experience would be so intense and caring, and I appreciate her sense of humor and style.  What a privilege for a couple to go on such a ‘retreat’ and come away with not only new skills to fulfill each other’s needs, but an avenue for open communication, as well as renewed passion.  We celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary next month, and I’ll bet our sex life is better than most newlyweds.  A million thanks.

                                                                                                  - Jane, Boston, MA

I am in AWE of Cléo's ability to read people and how she adjust's her approach to meet their needs.  It is definitely part of the ‘power’ I am seeking for myself!  Cléo showed me some important signals to look for in her body language. I also got a few new ideas on how to vary the timing and intensity of my strokes!  Most importantly, I saw responses and reactions that I had not seen before and really desire.

                                                                                             - Bill, San Francisco, CA

Cléo did a great job handling all our concerns and our turn on! We were lead to believe we could discover and embrace ourselves, and we did. Me and my wife are entering a new, vital, refreshing, loving, deep, and super sexy era in our relationship. In deep respect.

                                                                            - Mark from Fremont, CA

Our time with Cléo was so very helpful. This is such a wonderful and creative outlet for my controlling, sadistic side.  Now I am much more comfortable using the various implements of “torture” my man loves.   Now that I understand safety issues, we have worry free sessions where I can take him to the limit.  So much more satisfying for both of us!  The service Cléo provides is a wonderful contribution to the community.

                                                                                      - Patricia & Roger, Seattle, WA


From confidential consultations, to private play or mentoring, fill out the form below or make the call.

Let me know your desires. 

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Integrate BDSM into your life. Confidentiality assured. 

call or text Cleo Dubois at


P.O. Box 2345, Menlo Park, CA 94026-2345

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